It’s so crazy unbelievable that two months have passed since we have become man and wife. WOWZO!
I know that we haven’t had a lot of time to learn a ton about married life, but we cherish the few things we have learned!
We look forward to learning more about each other and our marriage the rest of our first year together – and the rest of the years of our life together!
1. Being A Proverbs 31 Woman is Not Easy
At one of my bridal showers a dear older lady pulled me aside and gave me a little bit of marital wisdom. She told me that in Proverbs 31, it says that the woman’s husband “is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.” (Proverbs 31:23). This means that the woman Solomon is describing to his son is an older woman. He isn’t describing a young wife. The woman he is referring to is experienced and has a lot of time as a wife under her belt.
She probably didn’t enter into marriage as a young woman already the perfect housewife.
She probably struggled with waking up “while it is yet night” (I mean, was coffee even around back then?).
She probably didn’t get the hang of “considering a field” to buy it for a while
+ it probably took her a couple tries to remember to not let the candle go out at night.
While it encouraged me in the moment, I didn’t fully take this wisdom to heart until after David and I were married and the laundry piled (super) high, the dishes didn’t get washed by the end of the day and I was feeling really discouraged. This was hard for me to face, but I am happy to say that I’m learning that it’s a process! Stay tuned to see if I ever reach my goal of being a real, genuine Proverbs 31 Woman.
2. Patience is Key
Marriage is the union of two VERY individual people. While David and I have some similar characteristics (we are both super chill and laid back + we both like ice cream with peanut butter), we are still different in SO many ways.
Our thought process is different.
We plan things differently.
We process things differently.
+ our weird, annoying habits are different.
It takes a lot of patience to step back while you figure each other out in a whole new light. It’s been a journey learning and processing the different ways that we both react to different situations. Being patient is a choice we have to make every single morning when we wake up, and sometimes we fail. But we have made it a point to never let the day end without giving an effort to be on the same page. We learn more every day ways to win the fight together, and we are loving the process of becoming an unbreakable team.